Okay, so here’s the thing. Labels and expectations, they never really sat right with me. It’s like everyone’s on this paved highway, cruising along, and I’m stuck on this new but rugged “Boneshakerbike”—a bike built by my friend Andrew Wellman, who worked at the Burton Snowboard Factory and built bicycles at night, trained by Ted Wozak. I’m rattling and shaking, struggling to keep up. But, and this is important, I still get where I need to go.
See, success, for most people, it’s all about these shiny milestones – degrees, money, the whole nine yards. But those things, they never really clicked for me. My brain, it just works differently. It’s like I’m wired for a different kind of journey.
One day, I was hanging out with my friends, Paul and Lucy, at this cozy little cafe, totally venting about how life just felt… off. The neurotypicals thought I was asking their opinion, so they started filling me up with bullshit talk about how college is the answer and… well, that isn’t the point of this blog, and I am still mad at them. Left alone, I would have become the world’s best influencer with the most YouTube followers. Back to this story. To be official, Paul told me I needed this thing called a Hotmail account. Email. And I needed to come up with my new name that would follow me around my entire life. We were talking about email addresses, of all things, and he said, “Make it something that’s really you.” And that’s when it hit me.
Boneshakerbike
It was perfect. It captured this feeling of being rough around the edges, maybe a little clunky, but unstoppable. Just like that bike, I might be jarring, I might make a lot of noise, but I get to my destination eventually.
It’s not about being the fastest or the smoothest. It’s about resilience, about embracing the bumps and detours. It’s about owning my unique journey, neurodivergence and all.
So, yeah, Boneshakerbike. It’s my email, my website, my online persona. It’s a reminder to myself, and maybe to others, that it’s okay to be different. It’s okay to travel a different path. Because sometimes, the most rewarding journeys are the ones that take you off the beaten track.
Looking Back
So on this day in history I am looking at the posts and one really stands out given what I know now. One post that bleeds autism is: Trust
Boneshakerbike 
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